tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19962237.post5009357881122581232..comments2024-03-04T16:39:30.609+13:00Comments on Lindsay Mitchell: Public versus private facilitation of adoptionLindsay Mitchellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04437693272797130833noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19962237.post-21338240090092577292011-12-22T10:09:30.936+13:002011-12-22T10:09:30.936+13:00I'm even more horrified if what Anon2 is sayin...I'm even more horrified if what Anon2 is saying is correct.Lucia Mariahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10485990994973953860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19962237.post-15974054130751456252011-12-18T21:11:03.987+13:002011-12-18T21:11:03.987+13:00This comment is from my knowledge of the experienc...This comment is from my knowledge of the experience of one family (the mother was NZ European) who was in this position. I have no idea of the father's ethnicity.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19962237.post-80784083445913636522011-12-18T19:07:13.703+13:002011-12-18T19:07:13.703+13:00Anon (2), Thank you for your input. Is this 'p...Anon (2), Thank you for your input. Is this 'process of elimination' constant across ethnicities?Lindsay Mitchellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04437693272797130833noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19962237.post-3415227305114808552011-12-18T17:29:27.291+13:002011-12-18T17:29:27.291+13:00It's worse than that in NZ. After the mother ...It's worse than that in NZ. After the mother has kept the baby for a period, the grandparents, then siblings of the mother, then the father, then the father's parents, then the father's siblings must all take a turn caring for the baby as an adoption trial, and only if none of these want to adopt after they have all had a trial, can the baby be adopted to non-family. In the case where the father has taken advantage of the mother, this still has to be the case, and someone in the mother's family can feel pressured to adopt the baby simply to prevent putting the child at risk by allowing the father access to the baby even for a trial. The whole process is extremely harmful to the baby, preventing bonding with any of the trial people. By the time the baby might be adopted outside the family, the baby could be six months to a year old and the critical time for forming a strong attachment to one safe carer almost over.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19962237.post-9962420535346247102011-12-18T13:02:58.746+13:002011-12-18T13:02:58.746+13:00Thats terrible that adoption is made so difficult....Thats terrible that adoption is made so difficult. Those poor mothers who want to give their babies up most likely end up bonding with them during that time.Lucia Mariahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10485990994973953860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19962237.post-37426721566434945452011-12-18T10:29:01.949+13:002011-12-18T10:29:01.949+13:00Still no comments Lindsay.Still no comments Lindsay.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com