The current backlash against the 'rape culture' personified by Roast Busters, dictates, insists, the 'victim' has no culpability.
I don't accept that and here's why.
Because if I accept that I must tell my 15 year-old she can get herself into any situation of vulnerability, go to someone's house where there will be a bunch of boys or even one boy, drink alcohol, do whatever happens with the loss of inhibitions that causes, and she is totally blameless.
Sorry. I'm not giving her that message.
If I did I wouldn't be protecting her.
Only she can take responsibility for avoiding unwanted events outside of my knowledge or control.
The attitude that she is blameless might be emotionally useful after the event.
But that's too late.
(Published with the consent of my 15 year-old).
Elliott for Napier
37 minutes ago