Sunday, December 26, 2010

Why child abuse continues

Here is the problem - or part of it. These are the words of the former Children's Commissioner, Ian Hassall, on the subject of abused children;

A mantra I learnt as a young doctor from older colleagues was, "There but for the grace of God go I". It was a reminder when faced with something shocking or upsetting to be aware of my own shortcomings and try to place myself in the shoes of the people who came my way and not condemn them. From such a position we hope to be able to consider carefully the injured children who come to our attention and offer them and their families the best service we can, whatever that might entail.


Ideally this 'Christian' approach should offer the best results.

However, when it is widely adopted beyond the sphere of the medical profession, it does not.

When social workers, court staff, lawyers, teachers, clergy, and various other volunteers don the self-satisfying cloak of non-judgmentalism those being mentored to, the abusers, actually start believing that their actions are justifiable, understandable and even admissible. They start believing in themselves as the victims of circumstances beyond their control - for instance their own upbringing, or in the case of Maori, their cultural oppression.

While it is true that these factors have bearing on what transpires - acts of domestic violence - they are not excuses.

But the perpetrators are probably quite shocked when they go too far and end up convicted and imprisoned. Quite a rare response from society in the scheme of things.

What is lacking is the broad stigmatisation of child abuse. It is strange that cigarette smoking has been transformed into a detestable, filthy habit by the Health Ministry, other paid zealots and politicians, yet influential people like Ian Hassall are still making excuses and preaching tolerance for child abusers.

3 comments:

Anonymous said...

That's the sad irony of NZ though. Light smacking is not tolerated and, against majority will, has been legislated against, yet the high end, outrageous violence and child abuse goes on abated, with nary a response from our representatives, or so-called. Hypocrites. A five year old girl was found dead in her bed (Herald front page a few days ago), no Christmas for her, utterly tragic, yet the family comments reported sound so blasé, as if just a pet had been killed. Where is the outrage? Where? Cries and Whispers.

Oswald Bastable said...

I totally reject that 'but for the grace of god'

I CHOSE to do better.

Anonymous said...

This is typical propoganda: liberals, in their effort to understand what happens, somehow condone child abuse.

And then to imply that anyone is more judgemental about tobacco smoking than child abuse is just flat crazy.

Who - name any person or organisation - is more upset about someone smoking a cigarette than about a kid being beaten to death?

Are you guys nuts?